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What To Avoid When Introducing Your MAN To Your Girl-Pals!
February 18, 2012GWL Staff
Now, our biggest worry is introducing our boyfriend to our friends and having him impress them. Which sometime puts alot of pressure on the guy, so you have to atleast see where the guy is coming from if and when he chooses to meet with your friends. DONT BOMB QUAD HIM OKAYY!! And there are some things that we do which makes that hard for the poor guy. Here are a few things to avoid when showing off our new boo.
1. Don’t leave him out of girl talk
Getting a few close female friends together and talk of the opposite sex is inevitable. Don’t cover your boyfriend’s ears or fail to get him up to speed with the conversation because you assume he will just be bored with it. He might actually be able to offer your friends some insight on their guy troubles! That’s a serious opportunity for him to shine.
2. Don’t be overly affectionate
There is a certain type of touch that says, “I am proud of this person, I feel protected by him” and then there is a certain type of touch that says, “Isn’t he just the cutest??” Don’t talk to your boyfriend in baby voices, or grab his cheeks and pull his face to yours for a kiss, or nuzzle his neck. Maybe you do this on the couch at home, but in front of friends it makes him look like a pet.
3. Don’t get too personal
Don’t bring up negative things that have happened to him. That is up to him to bring up. Job losses. Loss of loved ones. If you bring it up, your boyfriend might get a pity party he so didn’t want. If he wants to talk about those things to your friends, he will bring them up in a tone and manner that he is comfortable with.
4. Don’t deny him when he tries to pay
Yes, he is footing the bill for maybe three or four more ladies than usual, but it’s just this one time and if you don’tlet him do it, it completely emasculates him. And the good news is, if you do let him do it, he wins major brownie points with your friends.
5. Don’t include him on the order
“We’ll have 4 cosmos plus whatever he wants.” Don’t forget that second part. You don’t need to make your man feel like a total girl by including him on the round of whatever it is you and your friends usually get.
6. Don’t talk about your sex life
Maybe your man does have some phenomenal skills. Maybe he has a flawless, beautiful…you know. But that is not something most men want you bringing up to your friends in front of them. All they can do in that situation is sit there silently and feel like a sex object.
7. Don’t try to set up your friends
Don’t put your man in the awkward position of having to fumble through pretending that he thinks your “brilliant” idea to suggest a setup between your friend and his is a good idea, when he knows they are not a good fit. Ask him in private if he thinks it’s a good match, and if he says yes, then bring it up to your friend.
6 comments
Cool, common sense.
ReplyDeletenever EVER brag about your man to your female friends. NEVER EVER. If they know how well he treats you or how good he is in bed, this might have been your partner for the longest time. Praise him but moderately, and noone is tempted to find out about any of his skills whatsoever.
ReplyDeleteSooo true. Even when they got a man they still want what you have because it's yours. Better yet I don't even introduce my man unless it's on a hi and bye basis. A woman can have the most messed up man on her arm but because he is with you he is the finest thing walking. Trust me I have seen it happen time and time again.
ReplyDeleteI think that if a man really loves and respects you you shouldn't be afraid of him getting with ur friends and if he does he is not the man for u rather to find out sooner than later
ReplyDelete@LisaJ but your man isnt dating your friends so he shouldnt have to put through peer pressure to please your friends because he's already with you!
ReplyDeleteThats true but Its nice to show him off, but I understand and I will ease up on him.
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